Hi sweeties <3
I know that my latest blogpost was very negative, I am not going to apologize for it because this is my blog, that is what I felt like at the moment and I just needed to get it out of my system, now you know that.
Anyways, I have been thinking about certain things when it comes to guys/boys, as a single girl I am talking for myself and my experinces and friends experiences with this so called "love" life. If you are a girl this will be probably fun to read, if you are a guy and you can relate to any of these things... Well, start thinking again because these tricks obviously don't work and we girls know what you are up to, even if we play stupid or even "play along" we know exactly what you are thinking and what you are up to. ;)
If you are younger and just starting of with love, these is some advice that will be helpful for you so you don't fall for these games/tricks and it's something you should probably watch out for, lets get started -
- 1. Giving you compliments, often with a hidden thought
This is a CLASSIC. If a guy tells you that you are pretty, sexy, the most beautiful girl he has ever seen (this applies for when you chat on facebook, kik etc) and you just starting to get to know him, know this, he is probably telling you all those things to make you feel special and in that way, you have to give him something that he wants. He is just probably after getting laid and in this way, he makes you think he is serious but when you have it with this guy he is just going to be moving on to the next. Not all compliments have a hidden thought but most guys think like this, so have that in mind and don't fall for anything that a guy says/tells you.
- 2. Trying to compromise
This type of guy, he thinks he is making you some sort of "favor" and he will make you think that he is all nice and sweet and that, but then, he wants you to give something back by pursuing you into something you might not feel comfortable with and tries to gult trip you into doing that by saying something like "well, I bought you this/I did this for you baby, can't you please do it for me?" That is a trap, don't fall for that. If this guy isn't your boyfriend or someone that you really know, than this guy is trying to lure you into sex.
- 3. Text/call you whenever it suits just him
This is another classic. The guy starts to write to you whenever he feels like it, even though you tried contact him and he doesn't answer until a week later or two, this guy is just not that in to you. He is not serious and he just wants to have fun, if you are not in to that and you feel hurt/sad of what he is doing, stop talking to him. If you feel hurt now and keep on having the "contact" that you barely have, it will get worse and in the end he will stop talking to you completely and you sit there all bummed.
- 4. An ex calls you after 100 years
This one is for those who have someone that they had some sort of contact with or something intimate and then this guy shows up out of nowhere and is all like "hey, whats up? want to hang out this weekend?" Just don't. There is nothing more annoying than this.
- 5. Suggest Sex
This is not a guy you should take serious, AT ALL. He is very clear that he is just after one thing, one thing only and that is sex or something sexual. Don't try to think that he is prince charming or that he really likes you in a special way and that is why he wants to do it with you. If you are not into that, say no. Most of these guys will probably start nagging on and on about it but stand your ground and say NO. He is nothing else than a douchebag and he probably goes around to a lot of other girls. ;)
- 6. Adding your girlfriends on facebook
This is someone you are probably starting to get to know on fb (internet in general) or someone you might already have met irl and known for some time. If you have noticed that he is adding all your girlfriends, especially those that you don't talk to or have any special contact with that is a big chance that he is making a move on them just the same way he is making one on you.
- 7. Telling other girl's the same things he tells you
If you are talking to a guy that you start to like and you see on facebook/instagram or any social media that he is commenting a girls photo that she is hot and he just done the same to you, that means you are not that special to him and you should stop talking to him. That is kind of the same as nr.6, he is telling these girls the same thing as he tells you or talk to them in the same way he is talking with you and that goes in hand with adding your girlfriends on facebook. Not necessary but close enough.
- 8. Jumping from one girl to the another
He is first with you, then with someone else, or maybe even a friend. He is with different girls all the time, that pretty much sums it up.
- 9. Bragging
He says that he is so hot, every girl wants to be with him, he has been with over 100 chicks and so on. Same goes there. He is not a serious type of guy obviously and he just wants to have fun.
- 10. Saying that he has feelings for you
This is the one that most girls fall for and it is quite tricky to figure out if he is serious or not. He might be serious when he says that he have feeling for you but some real skilled players play this card a lot and usually works and it ends up with you having a broken heart. Especially if it is someone that you are starting to like. Be careful with this one and take your time, if he is still there after all this time you have been thinking about it, that means he is for real. If not, he is just probably faking it to get into your pants girl.
NOTE - These points are for someone who is looking for a serious relationship, if you are not, you don't have to care about these because it won't get to you as someone who wants to get involved in a serious relationship. That is my 10 things to know if a guy is a player, this was actually fun to write. I want other younger girls to learn from my mistake because believe me, I had my heart broken pretty bad because of some of the things I mentioned above.
If you are a guy and get offended by this, I am sorry but this is the truth and this is what most of the guys me and my friends have met and are like this. So yeah..
Good luck girls ;)